A wedding is one of the most memorable and important moments in a person's life. It is the moment one publicly vows forever to their true love. This intimate moment can lose value in a generic line. Here are 4 tips to help write personal wedding vows that are powerful and connected to your intimate and unique relationship with your true love.
Writing your own vows can be intimidating, and reciting those vows to your significant other before all your friends and family is no small feat. However, you are only 4 steps away from writing the vows of your heart.
1. Let your Heart Speak
Write the words from your heart, and let your heart speak what it beats to tell your true love. The things that come from our heart are uncensored, unedited, and are genuine. Sometimes the words might seem rough, but when you get them out onto the paper, you can work on the edits later. Love speaks its own language that not one thing speaks better than the heart. Your wedding vows are the most significant point of your ceremony. After all, it is the reason they all gathered here today. Let it come from your heart, and not a generic line followed by a "repeat after me."
2. The Poet is Not Required
You don't have to be Robert Frost or Emily Dickinson. Your wedding vows do not have to be an amazing classic piece of literature to be the honest display of your feelings for the person that you love most. Avoid long poetical phrases and words, if getting caught up in the text takes you too far away from your feelings. Keep the distance between your heart and your words close, and you will never fail.
It is okay to brainstorm. Even the best of writers brainstorm their ideas. Before you write the first word, make a list of the things you love and admire most about your future spouse. Then, make a list of the promises you vow to keep to them. This is what your wedding ceremony is all about.
4. Short and Sweet
Expressing your love and making promises to the one you love does not take an entire day at the altar. It does not have to become an elaborate speech. Sometimes, less is more. And sometimes, more can be said in less words. Do not overthink the process. Feel it, speak it out loud, and capture it on paper.